The quiet grief of success that no longer fits

It’s a strange kind of grief.Hard to name.Harder still to explain.You’ve built something substantial.A career people respect.A lifestyle that should feel like success.But there’s a hollowness.Not loud.Not dramatic.Just an ache you can’t quite shake.A dull sense of disconnection.Moments that should feel joyful land flat.Milestones pass without meaning.Even at home, you’re there but not really there.You […]

The next version of your life doesn’t start with a plan

You might think it has to. But in reality? It begins with a wild thought that you’re brave enough to follow.Have you ever noticed how “reasonable” your dreams become over time?As if life handed you a quiet rulebook somewhere in your twenties which said be sensible, stay within the lines, don’t reach too far.We tell […]

The problem with overthinking your next move

One of the most common traps I see smart, capable people fall into is this:They want change—but they overthink it so much, they never move.A new role. A business pivot. A bold conversation they know they need to have.They analyse it from every angle.Build spreadsheets. Play out every worst-case scenario.But clarity doesn’t come from thinking […]

Being “The guy everyone can count on”

You’re the rock.The stabilizer.The guy who never drops the ball.Everyone counts on you —At work. At home. In your circle.Here’s the blind spot:When everyone counts on you…Who’s helping you evolve?Being dependable is noble.But it’s also dangerous — because it can keep you stuck in an identity that no longer fits.You start to believe that change […]

The silent cost of winning at work and losing at home

A while back, I sat with a man who said,“I’m killing it at work but I can feel my marriage slipping through my fingers.”He hadn’t cheated or lied.But he’d been absent. Numb. Always somewhere else in his head.That’s the cost no one talks about.Because we celebrate the wins…the deal, the bonus, the board seat…but we […]

Is this the ache you can’t name?

There are seasons when everything on the surface looks steady. Work is fine. Family’s fine. Life, on paper, is fine.But beneath it all, something feels off.It’s subtle at first. A flicker of thought while you’re driving home, or a heaviness that arrives just before sleep. You can’t quite name it, but you know it’s there. A quiet whisper […]

Do you notice the restlessness?

The irritation that arises on a Sunday morning and builds through the day as you anticipate going back to work.The stomach punch of envy when you check out others living a very different life for yours and you wish it was you.Or maybe it’s idly cruising through YouTube videos checking out that Off Grid Dream, […]

My darkest moments are a sign

I don’t see it in that instant but when the dust settles it’s clear. They embody the tension between where I am and where I truly desire to be. Times of wild thinking. Giving it all up. Hating life as it is. Desperation. These painful thoughts, these moments of madness…Love letters from the soul, a […]

The pursuit of happiness changes

From the chase of things on the outside- wealth, standing, holidays, gadgets, high end bikes, watches, elite golf clubs…To deepening on the inside. There’s a turning point where doing and accumulating lose their shine. Call it a crisis of meaning. Restlessness. Irritability. Sadness masquerading as numbness are all present. A feeling of loneliness, however well […]

It catches you unawares

Watching your child running their socks off across the football pitch.Seeing your wife leave the house to visit friends, and reconnecting with the familiar and even nostalgic love.Closing your laptop, late in the evening, after a grinding day.A gnawing, unsettling feeling. Hard to name, but familiar all the same.I’ve had it when I’m least expecting […]