Let’s talk about confusion

I hear this a lot. “I’m confused.” “I just need more clarity.” “I’m not sure what to do next.”But when I dig deeper with clients, they’re rarely confused.They already know.They know what conversation they’re avoiding, truth they’re dodging or action they’re delaying.Confusion, more often than not, is protection.A label we use to avoid naming what we already see.Because […]

What’s on the other side of slowing down?

 A client told me recently, “I feel restless all the time. Like I need to be doing more.”So we explored what that restlessness really meant. Beneath it wasn’t a need for more action—but a need for less. A need for rest. For stillness.Most high-performers assume that if they slow down, they’ll lose momentum. That if […]

What if the real cost of your success… is your health?

A client said to me recently:“I’ve spent 25 years climbing. I didn’t realise how little energy I had left to actually enjoy the view.”That one hit hard.Because it’s easy to normalise the signs:•⁠ ⁠The sleep that never feels deep enough.•⁠ ⁠The constant low hum of stress in the background.•⁠ ⁠The quick temper with your kids, even though you […]

The Lie of “Having it all figured out”

A client once told me, “I’m waiting to feel 100% ready before I take the leap.”They were stuck in analysis paralysis—afraid to make the wrong move, overthinking every option, waiting for absolute certainty before they acted.But what I’ve seen time and time again is that clarity doesn’t come from waiting. It comes from moving.Alan (his […]

What if your success has quietly become a prison?

You’ve built something solid.The career.The credibility.The income.From the outside, it all looks like freedom.But on the inside… you feel trapped.Not miserable, exactly.But numb.Like you’re watching your life happen through glass.I’ve heard it said so many different ways:”I don’t hate my work… I just don’t love it anymore.””I feel guilty even admitting this — but is […]

The quiet grief of success that no longer fits

It’s a strange kind of grief.Hard to name.Harder still to explain.You’ve built something substantial.A career people respect.A lifestyle that should feel like success.But there’s a hollowness.Not loud.Not dramatic.Just an ache you can’t quite shake.A dull sense of disconnection.Moments that should feel joyful land flat.Milestones pass without meaning.Even at home, you’re there but not really there.You […]

The next version of your life doesn’t start with a plan

You might think it has to. But in reality? It begins with a wild thought that you’re brave enough to follow.Have you ever noticed how “reasonable” your dreams become over time?As if life handed you a quiet rulebook somewhere in your twenties which said be sensible, stay within the lines, don’t reach too far.We tell […]

The problem with overthinking your next move

One of the most common traps I see smart, capable people fall into is this:They want change—but they overthink it so much, they never move.A new role. A business pivot. A bold conversation they know they need to have.They analyse it from every angle.Build spreadsheets. Play out every worst-case scenario.But clarity doesn’t come from thinking […]

Being “The guy everyone can count on”

You’re the rock.The stabilizer.The guy who never drops the ball.Everyone counts on you —At work. At home. In your circle.Here’s the blind spot:When everyone counts on you…Who’s helping you evolve?Being dependable is noble.But it’s also dangerous — because it can keep you stuck in an identity that no longer fits.You start to believe that change […]

The silent cost of winning at work and losing at home

A while back, I sat with a man who said,“I’m killing it at work but I can feel my marriage slipping through my fingers.”He hadn’t cheated or lied.But he’d been absent. Numb. Always somewhere else in his head.That’s the cost no one talks about.Because we celebrate the wins…the deal, the bonus, the board seat…but we […]