Category Archives for "presence"

Feeling restless? What does it actually mean?

10am. Already 30 minutes at my desk and I couldn’t settle to anything. In my mind, there were so many things to do but whenever I tried to apply myself to what was in front of me, I felt antsy. Distracted. Wanting to do anything but was I had set out to do. I fiddled around […]

Are you living for now or for retirement?

I had a great discussion with a client this week about their hopes and dreams for retirement. They had some wonderful plans and clarity about what life could look like in 10 or so years’ time. It had me ask them a question… “What would need to happen for you to live in that retirement feeling right now?” Not […]

What’s on the other side of grumpiness?

I woke up (or woked up as my 3 year old says) in a pretty grumpy mood. A bad night’s sleep, ruminating on a crazy to do list, feeling like I needed more rest. As my wife slipped out to her exercise class, it turned out my sons had woken up the same. It’s not a good combination, […]

How to shift what seems unshiftable

There’s something I’ve never felt great about as a coach. That’s my relationship with my physical fitness. Obviously, as  a coach, my mental and emotional fitness has always been a top priority. But I’ll be honest, I’ve had sporadic periods of a physical fitness habit, but it’s never been easy or enjoyable to sustain. I love walking. I loved […]

What if you didn’t need to try so hard?

As someone who has made it a lifelong mission to work hard at things, it can feel incredibly uncomfortable to consider there might be an easier way. For me, and I imagine many reading this post, the cultural norm is to ‘go all in’, ‘strive hard’ ‘work to get results.’ Of course there’s nothing wrong with this, […]

The simplest question to ask yourself to unlock your next step

I’ve had some wonderful conversations this week. One question has unfailingly created the most impact. When someone slows down to really connect with the question and consider their answer, there is often a big release of emotion. The question… What is it that you really want? That question invites you to go deeper in your introspection. Not to take the […]

How to cope better with disappointment

It happens to us all. The news you didn’t want, the job offer that didn’t come through. Being side-lined or overlooked when the value you give is so patently obvious. When something disappointing happens, it’s hard not to take it deeply personally. To want to make it about ourselves. To fall into a pit of introspection about what did […]

What if your greatest challenge is your greatest gift?

Mother’s Day was a challenge this year. My eldest son has been struggling with some big emotions and on the day, our best laid plans lay tattered on the floor. There were tears, sadness, dismay, frustration (and I’m not saying from whom!) I felt bad for my wife, concerned for my sons and I’ll admit it, feeling somewhat […]

Is this the cost of success?

I’m curious, is success secretly killing your relationship? So many people that I work with speak about this. They are often driven leaders in tech, who are crushing their results, see their careers go from strength to strength. But those steps often come with a hidden cost, often showing up in their relationships with family and loved ones. How will […]

4 ways to take your team (and your relationships) to the next level

He held his head in his hands in frustration. The level of effort and commitment to move this organisation forward was immense. And yet Charlie felt so let down by his partners who seemed to drop the ball all the time. He struggled to stay calm and maintain his composure. Inside he was boiling with anger, wanting to call […]