Category Archives for "presence"

The jerk-reflex “no”

Have you ever noticed how quickly the word “no” rises in you… long before anyone else has a chance to weigh in?It’s subtle. Automatic.The other day, I caught myself doing exactly that. I was reflecting on a possibility – a small desire, really – and before the idea had space to breathe, something in me […]

The thing we rarely admit

Have you ever had one of those moments where you catch yourself performing? Trying to look good, sound good, appear composed… even when something inside you knows it isn’t quite true?I was reflecting on how much of my life, if I’m being brutally honest, has been shaped by the attempt to look good. Look good at work. […]

There’s a moment in every career where excellence becomes a prison

I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately.It looks like this…That subtle shift when life becomes familiar, easy and predictable enough… that we stop noticing we’re no longer fully in it.This feeling sneaks in quietly. The routine adapts itself so well that the days start blending. Meetings, tasks, conversations, all perfectly normal, yet something essential slips just […]

Leaders often get stuck in their heads

They worry about choices and tough talks. Here’s a simple way to break free.Switch your focus. Think of it like changing TV channels. Find something enjoyable to think about. This quick shift can free your mind from what’s bothering you.Here’s why this works.Ruminating is draining. It keeps you from moving forward. When you’re stuck in […]

You’re not lazy. You’re just tired of what no longer fits.

I used to think exhaustion was just part of being successful.Late nights.Early starts.Back-to-back calls.There was a strange pride in how depleted I felt.But what I’ve seen again and again—In myself, and in the clients I work with—Is that this kind of fatigue isn’t about capacity.It’s about alignment.You can be wildly capable and still feel drained.Not […]

One conversation can turn a small spark into a wildfire…

I was speaking with one of my Home Straight clients this morning. He’s building a project around getting men back into reading. It’s a simple, powerful idea that already carries a spark.But he’s been struggling to articulate it cleanly for this first pilot. So we explored what was really behind the mission.And as he did so, […]

You already know something’s off. Why are you pretending you don’t?

These moments in leadership. You’ve probably lived them. Something’s not quite right. You see a dip in someone’s performance. A tone that feels different. See a small behaviour shift you can sense even if it’s hard to name.Instead of turning toward it, you keep going. You tell yourself they are just having a rough week. You hope the issue will […]

Sometimes the body speaks before we do

There was a morning, not long ago, when I woke up already really tired. Not the usual kind of tired from too much on. It was heavier, lower. Like something in me had been trying to get my attention for a long time… and I’d been pretending not to hear it.I sat at my desk with […]

Let’s talk about confusion

I hear this a lot. “I’m confused.” “I just need more clarity.” “I’m not sure what to do next.”But when I dig deeper with clients, they’re rarely confused.They already know.They know what conversation they’re avoiding, truth they’re dodging or action they’re delaying.Confusion, more often than not, is protection.A label we use to avoid naming what we already see.Because […]

What’s on the other side of slowing down?

 A client told me recently, “I feel restless all the time. Like I need to be doing more.”So we explored what that restlessness really meant. Beneath it wasn’t a need for more action—but a need for less. A need for rest. For stillness.Most high-performers assume that if they slow down, they’ll lose momentum. That if […]