Category Archives for "presence"

Ever felt like you’re dancing between roles?

For me, it often shows up as an inner tug-of-war. If my marriage is thriving, then surely work must be suffering. If I’m being a present dad, then my health goals are on hold. If I’m excelling at work, family must be paying the price.This constant trade-off thinking is exhausting and often brings a feeling of stickiness, effort […]

When I finally stopped resisting

Sunday evenings used to feel heavy for me. That familiar knot in my stomach would tighten as the day faded.I’d tell myself it was just “a bit of Sunday dread,” but it was more than that.It was resistance. A quiet argument with reality that began long before Monday morning arrived.Years ago, I had a boss who (it […]

Are you silently lying to yourself about the real quality of life you’re living?

A client sits across from me and tells me about the boss who unravels weekly – erratic, volatile, unable to regulate – but because they’re brilliant or “strategic,” everyone walks on eggshells. The team absorbs their turmoil like it’s part of the job description.Another client describes a different form of endurance – staying in a role […]

Even when it seems like there’s no way out, possibility is closer than we think

A client told me recently how much they hated their commute. The train carriage, the noise, the restless scrolling. And how, before they’ve even settled, they open theor laptop. Straight into the blur of work.“It feels like it will always be that way,” they said. “I can’t imagine it any different.”Maybe you know that feeling. […]

Worried you haven’t got it all figured out?

The perfect exit plan. The financial picture to retirement. The pivot or reaching the next level?That’s ok. We can get so freaked out by the enormity of the question, that it stops us in our tracks from doing anything.I find sometimes the simplest question, opens up the pathway to what’s next.Is this exciting me anymore? […]

When the spark fades quietly

It doesn’t always happen in a single, cinematic moment. No lightning bolt. No grand revelation.Sometimes, awakening arrives quietly.It’s the deep sigh at the end of another high-achieving week, when you realise you’ve delivered everything expected… yet feel strangely untouched by it.It’s noticing how tired you are, not just physically or mentally, but somewhere deeper. The kind […]

When success feels hollow…

If you’ve built everything but feel nothing… it’s not saying you’ve failed.It’s something quieter.Something deeper.It’s an invitation.To notice what’s missing.What’s wanted but not expressed.What’s been hiding in plain sight while the rest of your life was in motion.You know that strange ache, the one that creeps in between meetings, or on the drive home, or […]

Feeling restless? What does it actually mean?

10am. Already 30 minutes at my desk and I couldn’t settle to anything. In my mind, there were so many things to do but whenever I tried to apply myself to what was in front of me, I felt antsy. Distracted. Wanting to do anything but was I had set out to do. I fiddled around […]

Are you living for now or for retirement?

I had a great discussion with a client this week about their hopes and dreams for retirement. They had some wonderful plans and clarity about what life could look like in 10 or so years’ time. It had me ask them a question… “What would need to happen for you to live in that retirement feeling right now?” Not […]

What’s on the other side of grumpiness?

I woke up (or woked up as my 3 year old says) in a pretty grumpy mood. A bad night’s sleep, ruminating on a crazy to do list, feeling like I needed more rest. As my wife slipped out to her exercise class, it turned out my sons had woken up the same. It’s not a good combination, […]