I reckon the most dangerous phrase you can say in life is ‘I should be happier than I am.’

Sure, it sounds small. The kind of thing you want to say quietly. Something you might not even dare say to your wife on a Sunday evening even though she senses it already.

But what is that question actually saying.

It's saying: probably by every measure that matters, my life is working. The income. The title. The family. The respect. The house. The holidays. All of it.
And yet I still feel flat.

That gap between 'I should' and 'I am' is the most important piece of information you have. It isn't ingratitude. I wouldn’t say it’s depression. It certainly isn't something to fix with more gym, more hobbies, or a better diet.

It's your own intelligence telling you that the life you've built and the life you're meant to live have quietly drifted apart.

Most men don't act on this. They park it. They get busier. They book a holiday. They wait for retirement. They tell themselves it's a phase.

And the years pass. The gap widens. By the time that question and feeling are too loud to ignore, a decade of the final chapter has already gone.

The phrase isn't actually the problem. Dismissing it definitely is.

If something in you keeps whispering that this isn't quite it, you're not being dramatic. I think you're being truthful, hard as it is to take.

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