Loneliness

Not the loneliness of not connecting with friends and colleagues, or being distant from your partner and kids.  Though those can be a cause too.No. The loneliness of no-one else knowing how you really feel about your life.Particularly if you are an independent soul. Used to solving it all and conquering by yourself.There was a […]

What if your hardest emotions were actually clearing the way for freedom?

When you get hit by a major disappointment, it can feel like the world stops turning. Your body keeps going through the motions, but inside, you’re stuck.Maybe you replay the moment endlessly. The words. The what-ifs. The why-me. It’s as if your mind builds a cage from the thoughts that wanted release.I know that place. It’s heavy. […]

There’s a particular kind of discomfort that doesn’t leave you alone

The kind that sits in your chest, twisting a little tighter every time you push it down.For me, it often comes when my inner voice whispers one thing, but the voices around me shout another.Maybe you know that feeling?Recently, we moved back to the South East. On paper, it seemed like the right step. But […]

The cost of ignoring your inner voice isn’t immediate

But it brings a particular kind of discomfort that doesn’t leave you alone. The kind that sits in your chest, twisting a little tighter every time you push it down.For me, it often comes when my inner voice whispers one thing, but the voices around me shout another.Maybe you know that feeling?Recently, we moved back to […]

Stepping into unfamiliar waters

This past weekend I took my son to try out three new watersports: paddle boarding, windsurfing, and sailing.He was excited… and also deeply resistant. The kind of resistance where you half-hope the session gets cancelled because the weather turns. Or that ‘tummy ache’ is real.Each time we approached something unfamiliar, his body almost said no […]

What if confidence was never the signal you thought it was?

Read this slowly…We labour under the illusion that confidence is the thing that moves life forward. That it predicts outcomes.Or that it needs rebuilding every time we face something new.But confidence isn’t a resource.It’s the absence of insecure thinking.When the mind quietens, confidence simply reappears.When we’re in flow, we don’t even ask the question.We just […]

Borrowed time…

Boris Becker won Wimbledon at 17. My age at the time.A teenager with incredible focus, athleticism, and a presence that made the world stop and jaws drop ( or at least mine!)And then I heard him recently on the High Performance Podcast. Speaking about bankruptcy. Prison. A very public unravelling of a life that once seemed […]

Ever felt like you’re dancing between roles?

For me, it often shows up as an inner tug-of-war. If my marriage is thriving, then surely work must be suffering. If I’m being a present dad, then my health goals are on hold. If I’m excelling at work, family must be paying the price.This constant trade-off thinking is exhausting and often brings a feeling of stickiness, effort […]

When I finally stopped resisting

Sunday evenings used to feel heavy for me. That familiar knot in my stomach would tighten as the day faded.I’d tell myself it was just “a bit of Sunday dread,” but it was more than that.It was resistance. A quiet argument with reality that began long before Monday morning arrived.Years ago, I had a boss who (it […]

Are you silently lying to yourself about the real quality of life you’re living?

A client sits across from me and tells me about the boss who unravels weekly – erratic, volatile, unable to regulate – but because they’re brilliant or “strategic,” everyone walks on eggshells. The team absorbs their turmoil like it’s part of the job description.Another client describes a different form of endurance – staying in a role […]