Are you caught in the trap of ‘I’ll be happy when’?

This comes up so often in my discussions with clients. The idea that there is a golden goal, the achievement of which will bring a deeper peace, an end to striving or relentless drive. If you’re like me, when I’ve had those sorts of goals and achieved them (say buying a house, getting a promotion or payrise, […]

Why commit to personal growth?

Are you the same person you were aged 10, 20 or 30? Ask this question of someone and you’ll generally get two kinds of answers:Absolutely yes – while on the surface, much has changed, there is a core part of me that is constant, never-changingAbsolutely not – so much has changed; been learned; experienced that I’m […]

Are you ignoring your voice?

I’m not necessarily talking about the tone / volume / musicality of your voice, but your metaphorical voice… The voice that speaks your truth… So much of the time, we hold back from speaking what we really feel or see as true. So much of the time, we hold back from hearing the truth of what we feel, […]

Is there something essential you’ve forgotten?

 I grew up by the sea and loved boating and sailing as a child. I’ve always loved the water and have been fortunate enough to live near the sea for much of my life. More recently,  in the southwest of the UK, near river and beaches too that are bounteous and utterly beautiful. But somehow over the years, […]

What to do when you’re caught in low moods…

Everyone has ups and downs, even those who seem not to.But what if that down you’re in seems to have legs?  Like a few weeks of persistent low energy, low motivation, low appetite (or massive appetite).Often when someone has a persistent low mood they start asking themselves ( or a loved one observes) that they […]

When you feel that there should be more to life…

Do you feel a bit disappointed with your life?It’s a niggle. Exacerbated by social media. You’re scrolling on your phone. A friend’s in the Caribbean, posting cocktails on the beach, again. Another is leaving your town to move to their dream location. Yet another is sharing a family occasion that looks full of fun and lightness.You’re not feeling […]

When you’re facing continuous overwhelm

Feeling overwhelmed? Caught in procrastination or paralysis as a result? Unable to switch off at the end of the day?You’d think better time management or more efficiency would be the answer. But they aren’t necessarily. Nor are better boundaries.Nor is getting better employees or having your wife/kids change their behaviour or demands of you.Nor is […]

What to do when you’re juggling too many plates

IT’S ALL COMING AT YOU AT ONCE. The dishwasher needs emptying. The kitchen still isn’t cleared up from lunch. The kids are jumping up and down for your attention. One’s desperately trying to show you a drawing and the other is asking for help with their game. You’re trying to listen to podcast in the background, one […]

How to reduce stress in the morning rush and home routine

Will you just COME ON!?It’s 850, and you have to drop him off by 900. Then your meeting starts at 930 and you need to be back at your desk, or at least your phone by then. With the traffic, it’ll be close, and you don’t want to talk while you’re driving.You begin to feel […]

How to futureproof your relationship with your kids

  It hits you like a slap in the face… ‘Dad, you know when you get to level 9, there’s this really difficult trick? You need to get past Bowser but if you don’t time the jumps right, he gets you every time. I JUST DID IT’ She’s fizzing with excitement and you’re nodding. ‘Fantastic, well done.’ […]