Even when it seems like there’s no way out, possibility is closer than we think

A client told me recently how much they hated their commute. The train carriage, the noise, the restless scrolling. And how, before they’ve even settled, they open theor laptop. Straight into the blur of work.“It feels like it will always be that way,” they said. “I can’t imagine it any different.”Maybe you know that feeling. […]

Worried you haven’t got it all figured out?

The perfect exit plan. The financial picture to retirement. The pivot or reaching the next level?That’s ok. We can get so freaked out by the enormity of the question, that it stops us in our tracks from doing anything.I find sometimes the simplest question, opens up the pathway to what’s next.Is this exciting me anymore? […]

When the spark fades quietly

It doesn’t always happen in a single, cinematic moment. No lightning bolt. No grand revelation.Sometimes, awakening arrives quietly.It’s the deep sigh at the end of another high-achieving week, when you realise you’ve delivered everything expected… yet feel strangely untouched by it.It’s noticing how tired you are, not just physically or mentally, but somewhere deeper. The kind […]

When success feels hollow…

If you’ve built everything but feel nothing… it’s not saying you’ve failed.It’s something quieter.Something deeper.It’s an invitation.To notice what’s missing.What’s wanted but not expressed.What’s been hiding in plain sight while the rest of your life was in motion.You know that strange ache, the one that creeps in between meetings, or on the drive home, or […]

Feeling restless? What does it actually mean?

10am. Already 30 minutes at my desk and I couldn’t settle to anything. In my mind, there were so many things to do but whenever I tried to apply myself to what was in front of me, I felt antsy. Distracted. Wanting to do anything but was I had set out to do. I fiddled around […]

Are you living for now or for retirement?

I had a great discussion with a client this week about their hopes and dreams for retirement. They had some wonderful plans and clarity about what life could look like in 10 or so years’ time. It had me ask them a question… “What would need to happen for you to live in that retirement feeling right now?” Not […]

What’s on the other side of grumpiness?

I woke up (or woked up as my 3 year old says) in a pretty grumpy mood. A bad night’s sleep, ruminating on a crazy to do list, feeling like I needed more rest. As my wife slipped out to her exercise class, it turned out my sons had woken up the same. It’s not a good combination, […]

How to shift what seems unshiftable

There’s something I’ve never felt great about as a coach. That’s my relationship with my physical fitness. Obviously, as  a coach, my mental and emotional fitness has always been a top priority. But I’ll be honest, I’ve had sporadic periods of a physical fitness habit, but it’s never been easy or enjoyable to sustain. I love walking. I loved […]

What if you didn’t need to try so hard?

As someone who has made it a lifelong mission to work hard at things, it can feel incredibly uncomfortable to consider there might be an easier way. For me, and I imagine many reading this post, the cultural norm is to ‘go all in’, ‘strive hard’ ‘work to get results.’ Of course there’s nothing wrong with this, […]

The simplest question to ask yourself to unlock your next step

I’ve had some wonderful conversations this week. One question has unfailingly created the most impact. When someone slows down to really connect with the question and consider their answer, there is often a big release of emotion. The question… What is it that you really want? That question invites you to go deeper in your introspection. Not to take the […]